Relationships. Without them, most of us feel that something vital and necessary is missing from our lives, and what we yearn for above all is a relationship with someone who makes us light up and come alive. However, as so many of us have discovered, this is easier said than done.
Why? Why is this so difficult? After all, we may meet hundreds and hundreds of people over the course of a lifetime and yet there are so few with whom we share a connection and sense of rapport, let alone that spark of attraction. And why is it, the individual who makes our heart beat harder, our breath come faster, can leave someone else unfazed? A look at our astrological charts can begin to answer some of these questions.
We are each a unique astrological and energetic combination of earth, air, fire and water and as energy, we, in varying degrees affect and are affected by others. So, let’s take a look at these elements,beginning with fire:
It is impossible to ignore fire. We are drawn to its light and heat and dazzled by its radiance. Few things are as dramatic as a wildfire or as warm and inviting as a fire in the hearth. If contained, fire is life-giving. If allowed to burn out of control, it can destroy everything in its path. If your sun or majority of planets fall in the signs of Aries, Leo and Sagittarius, your energy is fiery and inspiring. You exude a warmth, confidence, enthusiasm and dramatic flair that grabs the attention of all those who cross your path. Always on the move, easily fired up, you are quick to act, quick to anger; sometimes reckless and impatient. A visionary, you dream big and your sights are always fixed on the future. There must always be passion and change in your life as boredom and routine shrivels your soul. The fire signs are often attracted to earth who calms and contains their excitable nature, enabling them to achieve their dreams while earth, which so often can become stuck due to its cautious nature, can be enlivened by having a fire lit beneath it.
The Earth supports and nurtures us, providing for all our physical needs. If the sun or majority of planets fall in the signs of Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn, you are a physical, sensual individual and your energy is grounding and calming. A realist, you have your feet planted firmly on the ground. Practical and hardworking, people know you to be as solid as a rock and someone upon whom they can depend. But like that rock, you can be immovable. In your concern to maintain a stable a secure life, you can be resistant to change. Your happiness and satisfaction with life, depends upon being useful and productive. Earth signs are comfortable with water, understanding their need for quiet and solitude as well as sharing the same private self-contained nature. Both can be secretive and possess hidden depths. Think of the lava that seethes and boils beneath the Earth’s peaceful surface or the whole other world of plant and animal life that exists unseen within the depths of a placid lake.
Water is fluid, always moving, shifting, changing form. Streams flow into rivers, rivers into oceans and along the way, freeze, thaw, melt, and evaporate to become ice, snow, rain and clouds. If the sun or majority of planets fall in the signs of Pisces, Cancer, or Scorpio, your energy is sensitive and caring and your moods are as changeable as the weather. Sometimes, you possess a dreamy, mesmerizing quality. You feel things deeply and are the natural empaths of the zodiac, absorbing the hurt, fears and pains of others which can drain you and deplete your energy. Frequently, you cannot tell where you begin and others end, making you even more vulnerable to their energy. Seeking self-protection, you regularly do a disappearing act and retreat from the world. You need to be needed and have a deep desire to mingle your soul with another. Water, the element of feeling is often attracted to air, the element of thought.
Like our thoughts, air is invisible and always moving. If you were born with the sun or majority of planets in the signs of Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius, your energy is friendly and restless. You are always seeking a sense of freedom in moving and doing. You prize intellect and live in your mind which is never quiet but always thinking, thinking, thinking, which can exhaust your body. Others can count on you to be fair and reasonable as you never allow emotions to cloud the issue. This ability to cooly detach can make you appear unfeeling, when in reality, your are only protecting yourself from your own intense emotions. To feel alive, you must always be involved in social and intellectual activities and the exchange of thoughts and ideas with others.
While this is only a brief explanation of the complex energies that are mapped out in your astrological chart, I invite you to become more acquainted with your planetary makeup as it can be the adventure of a lifetime.
Kris Shubin will be teaching a class at All and One on Sunday, March 6th 2016 on Astrological Love Signs. Sign up here!
Instructor: Kris Shubin
Dates: Sunday 3/6/16
Time: 1:00 PM – 4:00 PM
Learn what your chart reveals about your loves and friendships. Why you are attracted to certain people and what qualities you seek and need from others in order to create fulfilling relationships.